Jesus Is Empathetic

A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing."
Eccl 3:4-5

"Jesus wept."    (John 11:35 KJV)

When Jesus' friend Lazarus died, Jesus wept. He surely would not have wept because Larzarus died for he knew full well that he would be raising his friend from the dead in short order. Jesus wept when he spoke with Lazarus' sisters. He wept to see them suffering so much sorrow and grief. 

This is called empathy. It is being aware of how others might be feeling or what they are actually experiencing. Empathy comes when we actually care about others. It appears to be lacking in way too many people these days. For many acts of sympathy are merely for the purposes of acting in a way that the people around you expect you to act. Acts of sympathy and genuine empathy are not the same thing.

Years ago, I had a secretary in my substance abuse office at a youth correctional facility. He was a resident there for shooting his step-father. His step-father did live. However, this secretary was unable to show any empathy for the victim. This young man had been horribly abused by him for many years and one day he broke. The other teens harassed him for not having any empathy since acquiring empathy was one of his treatment goals. One afternoon, I overheard another of my secretaries laughing at him for probably never getting out because he had no empathy. I believe this second secretary was there for armed robbery which also shows a lack of empathy for others. It was like the pot calling the kettle black. He  was not just pointing out that if he wanted to ever be released it would be helpful to work on understanding what others are going through and what they might feel. It was belittling him for having a mental health problem. I reminded this second teen that he also was not showing any empathy for the suffering that the secretary had gone through since he was a little boy. I reminded him that he was also unable to empathize with his suffering whether it be legitimate from anyone's viewpoint or not. I corrected him in order to remind him that this first teen was not the only one who needed to learn empathy before they would advance in their treatment programs. Belittling others for their mental health problems is not empathetic and does not help them in their healing. That does not mean that those in authority do not confront the issues. It means that there is a proper way to deal with their illness and that does not mean emotionally or mentally abusing them further.

I check the incarceration databases every now and then to verify that some of the young men that I treated and those who worked for me have not been re-incarcerated. Neither of these two young men, who are now in their 30's, have been. Thanks be to God!

True empathy comes when from loving others and wanting them to know the joy and peace and the love that comes from God through Jesus the Christ.

Learn to love as Jesus loves. Ask God to give you empathy for your fellowman so that all might live in peace.

God's Peace - Pr. J.